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The other day I was listening to a Jack Canfield call,  and one of the questions Jack answered was  “how do you start building confidence?” He said, “Just begin”. You don’t have to wait until something is perfect, or wait until it’s the right time or place. “Just begin”. Sometimes the first step is the hardest, but once you begin you’ll start building up a momentum.

Have you ever been invited somewhere, and you really didn’t want to go, but felt you had to? You came up with one excuse after another, on why not to go. Then you get there, and you have the best time of your life. You are just so glad that you went, and didn’t miss out.

That use to happen to me a lot. I would come up with all types of excuses. I don’t know why I did it. I just did it. Then I would get there, and have a really good time, so much sometimes that I wouldn’t want to leave. Well one day, as I was driving home I realized that I had this pattern. I didn’t see it before, until that night, because I heard myself saying, “I was glad I went because I would have missed seeing so and so, and would have missed this wonderful time”. Then it hit me! It didn’t matter why I did it, what really mattered was how I could change it.

On the drive home, I kept mulling over how I could change my behavior. When I got home, I put on the TV and a commercial came on for Nike. I wasn’t paying all that much attention to it, until I saw the slogan “Just Do It”. The slogan resonated throughout my body. “Just Do It” 3 simple words. I decided then and there to say to myself “Just Do It” when I started making up excuses. I had ‘just begun” a new way to change my old pattern.

That was over 2 years ago. Now, only on rare occasions, my old habit will come back. I’ll hear myself start making excuses. When I do, I stop and say; “Just Do It” and I instantly let it go. I’ve applied that saying to quite a few things in my life.

Where do you begin? Just begin by changing your choice. If you always do something the same way, and are not getting the results you want, then make a different choice. Hey, what’s the worse that can happen? You get the same results? If that happens, make a different choice until you get the results you want.

Do you know the saying, “what is insanity”? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get different results. Well, stop the insanity in your life by making a different choice.

 Just Do It!

Diana

 
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To Your Success

Diana

I was walking my dog the other morning, and I was in deep thought.  I had been recently hurt by a good friend and was struggling letting go of the hurt.  While I was walking, my dog gave a small bark, and I noticed standing on the other side of the street two dear.  I was surprised, because usually you don’t see deer at 9:30 in the morning.

As I stood gazing at them, and they stood watching me, I felt they were communicating with me and a sense of wonder filled me. I started to walk away, and I turned around to watch them gracefully fade away. 

As I watched them trot gracefully away, I noticed how effortlessly they took turns taking the lead.  There was no controlling, competition, or arguing. 

Another thing I observed, they were a pair.  It made me think, how companionship, friendship and support are really important.

I continued on my walk and started to feel an overwhelming feeling of compassion.  Tears started to stream down my face, and as I continued to walk, I was overwhelmed with love. 

I ponder the deer, because I knew they were a catalyst. And I asked myself: Why did the deer bring up these feelings of love and compassion?  What do deer represent to me?

For me, deer represent grace and beauty, and then I knew, innocent.  As I watched them, I felt their innocence.

At that moment, I realized we are all innocent, and we all deserve compassion.

As I continued my walk, I allowed my hurt and disappointment to melt away and be replaced with compassion. With each step I started to feel good about who I am.

I read once, that we can find answers in nature.  And I did. 

I am so appreciative of tapping into something higher then myself that morning.  For when I felt the tears and the overwhelming love, I knew it was coming from a loving source.

When we hold on to hurt, disappointment, and blame, there is no room for love, understanding and forgiveness.

Start making room today!

Diana.

This morning I looked in my sock draw for a pair of socks that would match my outfit, and found a pair of dark green/gray socks.

When I got outside I noticed that my socks were not green/gray, but chocolate brown!  I was stunned, and guessed it was probably the lighting in my bedroom.  So I decided when I got to my destination, I would take my socks off because they didn’t match what I was wearing.

When I went to take my socks off, I saw they were no longer brown, nor green/gray, but an olive green.  No I do not own a pair of chameleon socks! My best guest was the overhead lights were filtering out the color red which made my socks brown. 

And that got me thinking on how we use filters on people and on ourselves.  Our filters are like the color spectrum, we can color our experiences, with prejudices, and judgments from past experiences, family culture, etc.

So I ask you, what filters are preventing you from having high confidence and self-esteem?

Do you have a filter of self-doubt?
Do you have a filter of not good enough?
Do you have a filter of having to be right?
Do you have a filter of expectations?

How can these filters affect your confidence and self esteem?

Let’s say you are overworked, and want to ask your boss to hire additional help.  BUT, you lack the confidence to ask.

Your filters might be…
1. You doubt yourself in your ability to convince your boss why extra help is needed.
2. You don’t want your boss to think you aren’t good enough because you can’t do the work by yourself
3. You are convinced hiring extra help is the only solution and can’t see any other way.
4. You expect your manager to say no.  So why bother?

How can you remove these filters and let all of your confidence and self-esteem soar!

First – recognize your filters.  Become aware of what you say to yourself.  Become aware of your attitude, and feelings.

Second – decide to change it.  Make a commitment to remove your filters.

Third – Find resources to help you. Read books, join groups, find tools that work for you, get a coach, or a mentor.
Fourth – act on your commitment.  Implement and Practice.  Implement –DO IT.   And Practice, Practice, Practice.  You are not going to remove years of behavior in one day.  It takes 21 days to change a habit, and rewire your brain.  Remember – practice does make perfect, only if you put it into practice.

Fifth – be kind to yourself, and accept that you are in the perfect place right now!

What will happen when you remove your filters? 

Self doubt becomes self assurance
Not good enough becomes loving and accepting you.
Having to be right becomes opening to possibilities.
Expectations become living in the moment.

Most importantly, your self esteem and self confidence will begin to grow! 

Remember, holding on to these filters, stops your true self from shining through. 

I encourage you to let all your colors shine!

To Your Success,

Diana

Last week I felt I was getting depressed. Nothing was wrong in my life, and nothing was right either. I didn’t know what was wrong. I just knew how I felt.

I could feel my energy go down, when I got home from work, all I wanted to do was sleep. I didn’t have any energy. I was totally bored. I could feel my confidence seeping away, things I normally wouldn’t think about doing, I now hesitated. If I allowed myself, I could spiral down into a depression.

During the week, I used the weapons in my arsenal (I call them weapons, because sometimes keeping my self-esteem and confidence up can feel like a battle). I did the Sedona Method, and EFT. Though, they worked for the moment, my sad feeling would return.

On Saturday, as I was having my morning coffee, I took out my journal. I realized it had been over a week since I had written. So I decided to write about how I was feeling. As I was writing, I could justify every feeling I had, AND if I allowed, I could go deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole of hurt, anger and depression.

Then, it hit me! It’s a choice. I had a choice. I could stay with these non-happy feelings, or I could choose to be happy. After all, it is all a state of mind. So this is what I wrote. Do I want to be happy? Yes! What can I do? I can take my mind off of my problems and focus on something else. Like what? I listed the things I could do that would keep my mind occupied and start feeling good about me. So, I went shopping for some cloths that I needed. I started my fall cleaning. I worked outside. I took my dog for a long walk, and enjoyed the beautiful weather. By Sunday late afternoon, I felt better. I had a renewed determination, and sense of focus… Little things made me laugh. I was happy!

Monday morning, as I was driving to work, I gave my appreciation for all that I have. And for the teachers that have come into my life and taught me how to live my life my way.

You too, can have happiness, self-confidence and self-esteem. Just change your mind, and decide to have them.

It’s your choice, what do you choose?

To Your Success!
Diana

I was sitting in my kitchen thinking about the client I had recently helped. They were able to remember a childhood trauma that was interfering with their ability to lose weight.  They not only released the trauma from their subconscious, but I helped them release it from their body.  This trauma had manifested in their stomach, like an ulcer.

As I was reminiscing, I started to shift through my childhood, and these Cliché’s popped into my mind.  It takes one to know one, and Sticks and stones might hurt my bones but words will never hurt me.  At the time, I use to say these when someone would call me a name. It is not until now, that I understand the meaning behind these words.

Have you ever had someone judge or put a label on you?  It usually starts with you are . . . stupid, lazy, selfish, mean, unkind, arrogant, conceited, a slob, and fat.  The list can go on.  As a child, I usually heard I was lazy, selfish and a fat pig. How about you?  Stop and take a moment and write down what people said to you that hurt.

When I was a child, and other children would call me names, I learned how to say. . . It takes one to know one, or Sticks and stones might hurt my bones but words will never hurt me. At the time, I did not really know what it meant; it just felt good to shout it back.  However, when I heard name calling from a parent, teacher or any authority figure, it was crushing and I believe that something was wrong with me.  I wasn’t allowed to yell back It takes one to know one, or Sticks and stones might hurt my bones but words will never hurt me.

As an adult, I now realized not only was it crushing; I accepted it as a truth.  For years, I was afraid to ask for what I wanted for fear of being considered selfish.  I have always thought I was a fat pig, even when I was healthy and at the correct weight.  I would feel I was being judged as lazy if everything in my life was not neat and orderly.

How did I handle it?  I would shut down, beat myself up, or lashed out.  I frequently would “cut off my nose to spite my face.”

How did I overcome this?

First – I became aware of what triggered me.  I started to pay attention to my reactions when I felt someone was judging me.

Second – I used hypnosis to get to the “core” of my issue, and release it.

Third – I realized that the only way someone could hurt me with words, is if I let them.  If I let them, it meant deep down I believed it was true.

As I worked on my issues, and beliefs, I became like Teflon, anytime anyone said something to hurt me, it never stuck.  If it did, then I knew it was my cue to see what belief I still held.

As I started to release my childhood traumas, my self-confidence and self-esteem started to build.  When my self-esteem started to increase, I felt good about me.  I had worth.  As my confidence grew, I was able to ask for what I wanted, without feeling selfish.

Like me, you too can overcome the judgments from others.  If someone calls you names, remember words will never hurt you… only if you let them.  If they do, ask yourself, what is the belief around the hurt?

To Your Success!

Diana

First, let’s start building your self-esteem.  I believe, when you build your self-esteem your self-confidence builds automatically.  When you feel good about yourself, you take risk, and when you take risk, you increase your confidence. 

How do you do that?

I know for me, in the past, when I would look in the mirror I would list all the things I didn’t like about myself.  It would start with my hair, my mouth, my chin, and I would go down to my toes.  That would start a chain reaction and then I would think about the stupid thing I said, or get angry for saying yes, when I wanted to say no.  It would usually leave me feeling unhappy. 

Now that I look back, I see how I set myself up for disappointment and failure, every day.  I am happy I have learned how to change my way of thinking.

Start with, accepting who you are, accepting how you look, accepting where you are at this moment.  Accept it.  It is what it is.

Does that mean you are stuck feeling, looking or acting this way forever?  No.  Change takes time.  Change takes commitment.  Change happens when you WANT it, not because you think, you SHOULD want it.

Answer the following questions:

Question number one:  Do you want to like what you see in the mirror?  On the other hand, do you think you Should like what you see in the mirror?

Question number two:  If I had a magic wand, and you could change instantly, what would you like to see in the mirror?  How would you feel?

Question number three:  Are you willing to make a commitment to yourself?

Question number four:  Are you willing to be consistent and patient, while the changes unfold?

If you haven’t answered yes to all the questions, then ask, “what is my fear?”  Fear keeps us safe.  Change makes us take Risk. 

If you have answered yes, that’s GREAT!  Keep these answers handy and read them whenever you need a reminder on what you want, and how you want to feel.

Here is an exercise you can do.

Every time you look into the mirror, throw yourself a kiss and say, “I appreciate and love you” and then find one thing about your body that you like.  It could be anything.  When I did this exercise, I started with my nose.  It was the least offensive feature I thought I had.  To remind myself, and to be consistent, I taped a note on my mirror and wrote, “Diane, have you loved yourself today?”

At first, I use to laugh, and I couldn’t really look into my eyes.  On good days, I would joke around.  On bad days, I would grumble.  Nevertheless, I did it every day.  I was consistent because I wanted to be happy.

 Then something changed, I started doing it more often, instead of once a day.  I started to look at me not to find something wrong, but to find something nice.  I had nice feet.  I had nice nails and then it would be, I love to laugh, I love a challenge, I love . . . the list continued to grow.

One day, I was washing my face and looked into my eyes, and saw how pretty they were.  I have to admit, I was taken a little aback, until I realized, my eyes were no longer sad, but happy.  I saw the change, and I felt the change.

That gave me momentum.

Answer the questions, and do this exercise.  Soon you will hear yourself say. “I am confident and I truly like what I see in the mirror!”
Remember, LOVE you, you are WORTH it.
Love ya,

Diana

Recently I had a meeting with strangers and I showed up as myself.  Showing up as me means, I was confident and gave my opinions, theories and insight calmly, and confidently.  I surprised myself, because in the past, when I was with strangers and would start to talk, my heart would start to beat fast, my hands would start to sweat, and I would forget what I wanted to say, or fumble on my words.  I’ve improved over the years, and my symptoms have lessens, however, the fast beating of my heart, the dry mouth and the scared feeling never really left until this meeting.  This time, I experienced calm and confidence. I showed up to that meeting happy and confident, because I was confident.  I received a pleasant insight about me.  I saw, heard and felt my intelligence.  All my years of experience came together.  I felt like an actor or athlete when all your training comes together with ease and grace. I felt alive!

What I realized, I had let go of my fears.  My fear of being wrong, my wanting approval, and validation. My fear of not being able to offer something of value.  I let go of the fear of being judged.  Of “losing my job” because I couldn’t perform.  I let go of my fear of being less then.  I let go of my fear of being wrong.  What I did was show up as me, with my personality, my experience and my perception of the situation.  I didn’t get hurt if they said my idea wasn’t what they were looking for.  I didn’t get crushed if I didn’t hear “job well done Diane”.  I didn’t get discouraged if they didn’t ask for more feedback.  I wasn’t afraid to disagree with their observations.  I truly came into the meeting as me, confident, and I walked away feeling better about myself.

I am hear to tell you, YOU too can have the same experience.  I see it as the Wizard of Oz.  The journey to self-confidence and self-esteem is like the yellow brick road.  The house falling on the wicked witch symbolized eliminating your past influences, and starting on your new journey.  The yellow brick road is that journey, promise of you dreams fulfillment.  Along the way, you pick up the scarecrow and you become aware of the thoughts going through you head.  Then you pick up the Tin Man, and you start forgiving and loving yourself.  Then you pick up the Lion, and your courage, and determination increase.  All the while on your journey, the Wicked Witch of the East, or your destructive, fearful, self is trying to stop you from succeeding.  With these three companions – insight, love and courage you make it to the Emerald City.  The Emerald city leads you home to your true self.

Follow the yellow brick road, follow the yellow brick road, follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the yellow brick road.  Your off to become your confident self, in the Wonderful World of YOU.

To Your Success!

Diana

I imagine my body is like a piano, ready at a moments notice to confidently play beautiful uplifting music.  All I have to do is keep it in tune. 

Keeping yourself in tuned is a consistent process.

First – know what you want.

Second – let go of the fear of not having it.

Third – when you see an opportunity, take ACTION!

It’s time to start changing your thought patterns.  When a thought and feeling comes up that doesn’t support what you want, change it, or let it go.  Reinforce your issue with a new thought and better feeling.  When you do this, the Law of Attraction will kick in.

What happens when you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings?  

On the physical side, your brain will start to “rewire” itself, to match your new behavior and thought patterns.  In order to make permanent changes in your brain, and behavior, YOU MUST be consistent.  Consistency is the key to making life changing habits. 

Also, your body, will tell you the truth.  Therefore, it is important to become aware of your feelings and where you feel them in your body. 

Here is a body/feeling connection exercise you can do.

Take a deep cleansing breath – close your eyes and think of something sad, feel the feeling and see where you feel it in your body.  Then do the same for anger, frustration, and hopelessness.  Where in your body do you feel these feeling?  Now, repeat the exercise and see where hope, happiness, joy, peace and love are n your body. 

Knowing where these feelings are in your body will help you determine when you are in or out of tune.

Sadness, anger, frustration and hopelessness will keep you out of tune with source energy, whereas love, joy, peace and happiness will connect you to source energy, the universe, GOD, or whatever higher power you believe in.

When someone or something hits a key and you feel yourself playing out of tune, you know it’s your signal to “tune the instrument.” Remember playing with a tuned instrument will keep you connected with source energy, the universe or GOD

And, being connected is the way to manifest a joyful, fulfilling life.

Did you ever listen to music that brought you so much joy it raised your vibrations, and you felt so much love toward the world and everyone in it? 

Imagine… feeling that all the time. 

You can, when you stay In Tuned!

Love Ya!

Diana

I am a big fan of the Abraham teaching provided by Esther and Jerry Hicks.  I started reading the book Money and the Law of Attraction.  I’ve already listened to the audio version several times, and I decided to read the book also.  I was reading the Preface, written by Jerry Hicks, and a light bulb went off in my head.  It finally clicked for me.  I am creating my world, my reality.  Whatever happens to me, or wherever I am in life, is because of my desire and the choices I’ve made.  When Jerry was explaining about his desires and how they manifested for him, I finally understood.

I went back through my life and remembered the times when I truly wanted something. Not wanting it out of  desperation, but because I truly desired it.  Whether it was a better job, or a new relationship, or something material, when I desired it without knowing how it was going to come, I received it, and most of the time it came out of left field, which surprised me.  When I look back, I see I got what I had asked for.

Now I am at a time in my life when I am learning how to create deliberately, and I have to laugh because I am still amazed when I get what I want.  And it still comes out of left field.

For Example:  I’ve always wanted a cat with brown eyes.  I know someone who has exotic cats with brown eyes, and I’ve always admired them.  Just recently someone abandon a kitten in my front yard and she is a pretty 7 week old Calico cat.  I was looking at her the other day and realized she has brown eyes!  They look like chocolate milk.  I was stunned, and then immediately said my appreciation for this wonderful gift. I now have a cat with brown eyes!

The last 6 years I have been on a journey to find joy and to become a happier person.  I’ve accomplished releasing the fear and worry from my life.  I’ve learned how to take risk, and jump out of my comfort zone.  I’ve learned how to love myself.  The by-product has been increase self-esteem and self-confidence.

The idea of getting what I want was exciting to me, but first I had to release some ‘baggage” or “limited beliefs” I had collected from my past.  The belief I was being “selfish” when I wanted to put me first.  The belief that I can’t have what I want.  As I cleared a limited belief away another on would pop up.  It reminded me of a PEZ dispenser, each time I took a limited belief out, another one would pop up, ready to be worked on.  I use to think it was hopeless, I would never be finished. Then my life started changing.  I started looking forward to the next limited belief, because it clarified what I wanted, and brought me closer to the joy I was seeking.

I use to ask myself, if I create my reality, how come I don’t have what I want?  Then I realized I do have what I want.  What I have is what I’ve asked for and ALLOWED to happen.  If I don’t have everything that I want, then it’s because I have a belief it can’t happen, or I don’t have a clear vision of it, or I don’t believe I am worthy, or whatever.  It isn’t here because I have not ALLOWED it to MANIFEST.

As I mentioned before, I have been on my journey to find joy and to be a happy person.  And I have accomplished that goal.  I AM HAPPY.  Each morning I wake up filled with joy and anticipation of creating what I want.  Life still throws me some curves, but with the tools I have collected, Hypnosis, The Sedona Method, EFT and my belief that I have the POWER to change things. I get through.  It’s like my happiness and joy are my life saver.  Once in a while a tidal wave will wash over me, but my life preserver of joy keeps me afloat until the danger passes.  My tools help me paddle safely to shore.

YOU can have what you want.  All you have to do is decide what you do want.  Be clear and FOCUS on what you desire. Do not focus on what you don’t have, instead keep focusing on what you WANT!

Start Manifesting TODAY!

I Love you ALL!

Diana